Concerned about your Relationship?


Are you concerned about your relationship?

Does your partner…

  • Hit, slap, punch, or choke you?
  • Threaten you, put you down or call you names?
  • Have outbursts of anger or overreact to small things?
  • Display unreasonable jealousy?
  • Threaten you with weapons or other objects?
  • Show quick or extreme mood swings?
  • Have a history of abuse in past relationships?
  • Treat you like a possession, saying no one else can “have” you?
  • Mistreat pets or children?
  • Try to isolate you from friends or family?
  • Enforce stereotypical ideas of male/female roles in your relationship?
  • Accept no blame or responsibility for his/her behavior?
  • Act charming & likable in public while treating you badly in private?

If you can answer “Yes” to one or more of these questions, you may be experiencing abuse in your relationship. You are not alone. Abuse happens in every culture, every country, every age group, and it may be happening to you. No one deserves to be abused or threatened. You cannot stop your partner’s abuse, but you can find help and support for yourself. You can call SHRCC’s 24/7 number to access our services:1.800.273.5066. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.

What You Can Do

  • Call the police if you are in danger and seek medical attention if you are hurt.
  • Talk with somebody you trust such as a friend or relative, someone from your job or house of worship, or your health care provider.
  • Develop a safety plan with your children including people they can call in an emergency.
  • Put together an “emergency kit” for a situation where you have to leave suddenly (keys, money, legal and important documents, medicines, etc.).
  • Remember that you are the expert about your own life. Don’t let anyone talk you into doing something that’s not right for you.